Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Stress and Coping with NLD

Sometimes as parents it’s easy to become immersed in the needs of the child who has NLD, but it’s important to remember to take time to spend with each of the children as well as your spouse.  This doesn’t necessarily mean each child and spouse will get equal amount of time, but as long as you are doing something the children enjoy.  Not only should you spend time with other family members, but there needs to be a time to yourself so you are able to “recharge your batteries”.   Three important items you need to maintain as a parent is health, perspective, and attitude.  Without these it will be harder to meet the needs of the child with NLD.  There are often times external pressures such as other telling you you’re being over protective with the child, and telling you how to raise your child.  It can be hard to not fall into the temptation of others, but it’s important to remember you’re the parent and you know what’s best for your child.  When raising a child with NLD, or any other disability, there are going to be stress in the family life.  When there is a crisis it’s extremely valuable and recommended to have a support system where you or someone in the family can go to and talk and work through the stress. 

Children with NLD thrive on routine and predictability, and deal with change horribly.  These children in order to cope with change need preparation and lots of information.  “You’ll need to let them now well ahead of time what the change or event will be, exactly when it will occur, the duration, and what will happen in detail” (Tanguay, 2001).  It’s important to talk to the child with NLD about their concerns and all else don’t try and change them but love what makes them unique. 

I know I have been focusing most of my topics and research on children with NLD, but I did find a youtube video on a lady name Laura Paxton who has NLD.  She created an acronym OCTOPUS- Organization, Coping Strategies, Transportation, Order, Perspective, Understanding, and Simplify.  Laura briefly talks about what she does in each of these categories.  I find this video informational and helpful to someone who has NLD or wants to know about NLD.  Below is a link to the video if you would like to view. 

1 comment:

  1. This post can go along with your previous post. If a family member is stressed, the verbal and physical gestures will not reflect on how that family member might really feel. If it is more negative because of stress, this would cause more stress on the child I assume. The video you provided could be very helpful for parents. It is nice to see that this particular mother is reaching out trying to help others that might feel the same way as her. Good post!!

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